What is the most serious row you've ever had with a friend? Did the friendship survive? Why or why not? What, if anything, did you learn from this experience?
As a result, me and my friend friend ship is survive. When I was 15, we appointed meet at someplace. I arrived at on time , but he came an hour later. The reason was sleepover however he might could make home call when he woke up. He treated food so I forgave him. I learned from that happening about don't dowhen someone do it to you.
That seems like a good reason to be angry with some person. In my culture is likely normal to arrive late to meetings with friends, in fact, if you are the person who arrived last, you are the coolest one.
That's interesting comment. I think we have a similar culture with Venezuela because the person who arrived the last are the coolest one. I think that just habit.
I think it could be fine if you arrive late for an informal meeting, so this was a little problem and you did well to forget the impasse and maintain your friendship.
Once, when I was a kid I had a trouble with one of my best friends because of a girl. I was trying to give him advice because I had the impression that the girl did not love him as much as he loved her. I told him my perspective of the situation and he did not believe me. Then the girl found out what I told him and told him to stop talking to me. Since that moment I lost that friend. He never talked to me again. I think of course that´s a thing of kids. I don´t think that an adult would stop talking to someone with no apparent reason, and also, an adult could appreciate a little bit more an advice coming from a good friend, either is good or bad.
I learned that I cannot intercede in relationship´s even when I have good reasons to do that. Couples with figure out how they can solve their problems and the person who advised is always the most aggrieved.
It's sad story with your friend, but I think I agree with you this time it's very difficult to advice someone about something especially in relationship. Nowadays, it's rare if you find someone is accepted your advice.
I have a friend from childhood. She was the closest friend ever after she and I entered the college she was changing totally without any reason. In my opinion, I think some people if something new become in their life or they become in high position, they changes their behavior with old friend. Finally, our friendship is not survived. I learned from this relationship I can't trust friend any more ever because they may leave me without valuable reason. For me, this kind of friends are not appreciating of friendship.
I see. Different place, different relationship are make changed personality some time. Have you asked or suggested to her about " you changed bad way." I think, before people finish their friendship, we have to discuss. Otherwise you'll never understand why. Also you absolutely make best friend still now. Don't afraid about past.
But why do you think she changed? You entered with her to college, Do you think that maybe you got higher grades than her and she adopt the wrong attitude about it? Or maybe she thought that she was better than you? Did you tried to talk to her?
Yes I had a good friend. He had a big economic problem and in his desperation to obtain money, stole from my house one of belongings (a gold chain). I knew that he was the only strange person at my home that night. I asked him, but he told me that it wasn´t him and I believed it. Two days after the incident, I found out that he sold the chain for little money, He betrayed me, so now we are not friends anymore.
Oh that's shame. If I were you, I'll beat him up because he stole thing from friend. You can feel lucky also unlucky. You found out he sell it, actually it was lucky because you could find who stell it; however, you finished you and your friend's friendship. You can find good friend more.
Well all bad things must come to an end. I forgot to mention that I had a lot of problems with my family because, my friendship with this guy as always my family was right.
In one day, when I was in a college, I had a graduation research, and I had to work with my friend. We decided to work very hard to get a high GPA,but I did most of the work. Finally, when the professor asked us are you work together, he replied " yes, but I did most of the work". I was shocked at that time because the professor gave me another work to do in order to get a good score. Then, I decided to leave my friend because he was dishonest and selfish. I learned from this experience that I should be careful in my friendship.
As a result, me and my friend friend ship is survive. When I was 15, we appointed meet at someplace. I arrived at on time , but he came an hour later. The reason was sleepover however he might could make home call when he woke up. He treated food so I forgave him.
ReplyDeleteI learned from that happening about don't dowhen someone do it to you.
That seems like a good reason to be angry with some person. In my culture is likely normal to arrive late to meetings with friends, in fact, if you are the person who arrived last, you are the coolest one.
DeleteThat's interesting comment. I think we have a similar culture with Venezuela because the person who arrived the last are the coolest one.
DeleteI think that just habit.
I think it could be fine if you arrive late for an informal meeting, so this was a little problem and you did well to forget the impasse and maintain your friendship.
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DeleteOnce, when I was a kid I had a trouble with one of my best friends because of a girl. I was trying to give him advice because I had the impression that the girl did not love him as much as he loved her. I told him my perspective of the situation and he did not believe me. Then the girl found out what I told him and told him to stop talking to me. Since that moment I lost that friend. He never talked to me again. I think of course that´s a thing of kids. I don´t think that an adult would stop talking to someone with no apparent reason, and also, an adult could appreciate a little bit more an advice coming from a good friend, either is good or bad.
ReplyDeleteI learned that I cannot intercede in relationship´s even when I have good reasons to do that. Couples with figure out how they can solve their problems and the person who advised is always the most aggrieved.
It's painful when we advice some one, and he/she feels that we envy or feud him/her.
DeleteIt's sad story with your friend, but I think I agree with you this time it's very difficult to advice someone about something especially in relationship. Nowadays, it's rare if you find someone is accepted your advice.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend from childhood. She was the closest friend ever after she and I entered the college she was changing totally without any reason. In my opinion, I think some people if something new become in their life or they become in high position, they changes their behavior with old friend. Finally, our friendship is not survived.
ReplyDeleteI learned from this relationship I can't trust friend any more ever because they may leave me without valuable reason. For me, this kind of friends are not appreciating of friendship.
I see. Different place, different relationship are make changed personality some time. Have you asked or suggested to her about " you changed bad way." I think, before people finish their friendship, we have to discuss. Otherwise you'll never understand why. Also you absolutely make best friend still now. Don't afraid about past.
DeleteBut why do you think she changed? You entered with her to college, Do you think that maybe you got higher grades than her and she adopt the wrong attitude about it? Or maybe she thought that she was better than you? Did you tried to talk to her?
DeleteYes I had a good friend. He had a big economic problem and in his desperation to obtain money, stole from my house one of belongings (a gold chain). I knew that he was the only strange person at my home that night. I asked him, but he told me that it wasn´t him and I believed it. Two days after the incident, I found out that he sold the chain for little money, He betrayed me, so now we are not friends anymore.
ReplyDeleteOh that's shame. If I were you, I'll beat him up because he stole thing from friend. You can feel lucky also unlucky. You found out he sell it, actually it was lucky because you could find who stell it; however, you finished you and your friend's friendship. You can find good friend more.
DeleteYou remind me a nice quote in Arabic language which is"Be careful of your enemy once and of your friend a thousand times."
DeleteWell all bad things must come to an end. I forgot to mention that I had a lot of problems with my family because, my friendship with this guy as always my family was right.
DeleteIn one day, when I was in a college, I had a graduation research, and I had to work with my friend. We decided to work very hard to get a high GPA,but I did most of the work. Finally, when the professor asked us are you work together, he replied " yes, but I did most of the work". I was shocked at that time because the professor gave me another work to do in order to get a good score. Then, I decided to leave my friend because he was dishonest and selfish. I learned from this experience that I should be careful in my friendship.
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