What is your definition of a friend? What qualities are most important to you? What is the most serious breach of friendship you can imagine? Could you forgive a friend who hurt you? RESPOND and then REPLY to two of your classmates.
It is complex to describe what a friend is for me, but there is a poem which is close to the meaning that I have about friendship.
As Kahlil Gibran said in his poem On Friendship:
"Your friend is your needs answered. He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.
... all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain."
Loyalty, faith, trust, respect, admiration, dedication and support are some of the qualities that I consider important in a friend. Unfortunately, none is perfect and can offer us all of these attributes in a relationship; however, sometimes you will find someone who has some of those characteristics that are related to friendship. When that happens, you will feel that you have found a vital reason to share all your good and not so good experiences. Nobody is perfect as I said, as human beings we make mistakes constantly, but we also need to know how/when to fix them or let them go. You will feel that you have a real friend when you see in his/her eyes full understanding.
Benevolence, Righteousness, Politeness, Intelligence and Trust. This 5 points become the classic Chinese moral ethics. It also become qualities are most important for me. I think friends not only can eat or chatting with you, they must can help you. Only through working together and helping each other can we weather the current difficulties. However, betrayal is the most serious breach of friendship I can imagine. I think I can't forgive a friend who hurt me
A friend is person that contradicts against my direction in some cases because people need to understand fully about other people to contradict them. Some people might say that the important qualities of friendship are assistance, respect, trust and so on. Of course, these qualities are significant things to make good relationship with people; however, it just make people become one of acquaintances and does not make a friendship. As I said, a friend sometimes contradicts my direction and decision. Therefore, if my friends hurt me, I can think that they do that to make my direction better. After all, a friend is person who lead me to a good direction and it is retained by deep understanding each other.
I agree with you, Keisuke. We are human and we make mistakes, it is necessary to have someone on your side to tell you what you are doing well or wrong. That will help you to become a better person.
In my opinion, friends is the people who can share the worry and happiness with each other, help each other when one of them is in trouble, understand and take care of each other. In a word, the real friends can make the positive effect to each other. The most important quality of a friend for me is to be sincere, because we all want our friends to express the real idea in their hearts to us, and I cannot stand that my friends tell a lot of lies to me. Besides, the sincere is also reflected in the situation when you do something wrong, the friends will point out the fault you make and still be there with you, to support you. Also, it is obvious that lies and betray are the most serious beach of friendship I can imagine. Because if A friend who spends a lot of happy time with me, then he lies a lot to me or betray me, I will feel vary sad. That is, we play together, and maybe share some secrets with each other because of the trust. And then I have seen her is a good person and I have the deep emotion with her.
I like your way to describe a friend for you. I agree with your idea of sincerity; it is an important aspect to think about. Sincerity means to say what you feel and believe without being hypocritical.
And I can forgive a friend who hurt me if he apologize to me and he is still good. I think everyone has an opportunity to be forgiven because making mistakes cannot be avoided.
In my opinion, friend should be a person who gives you a lot help and feels happy to stay with you. I think trust is important for me to make friend. If I can't trust a person, I won't be friend with him. I think the best friendship is that we can play together and be friend for ever. If my friend hurt me, I won't forget him. But I may not be friend with him anymore.
I believe friend is a guy who won't betray you; a guy who trust you; a guy who will bring you happiness when you see her/him; a guy who his heart always connect with you whatever where you are. Also, a perfect friendship is base on a mutually respectful, equal and trustworthy relationship. Usually, I don't want to think about what my friends will do worst things to me, but betrayal is the worst what I can imagine. I can forgive everything to my friends. I can forgive everything what my do to me, but betrayal.
I think friend is a person who is giving you a sense of security. The person you can share every secrets, laughing together and crying together. Also, helping you excluding the cost and never going to hurt you. Moreover, honest is most important for each other. I couldn't imagine my friend try to hurt me and still lie to me.
Give a definition of a friend is not an easy thing for me. For me, a friend must be a person with whom you get along well regardless of your differences. A friend is a person who listens to you, supporting you, which gives you good advice, which is with you in good as in bad times. The most important qualities in a friend for me are: loyalty, self-confidence, sense of humour, respect for the other. As no one is perfect, a friend may also have defects that we bear, a person can pretend to be friends with you and then betray you. I think that nothing is unforgivable in life. If a friend hurts me, I say to him first which was not pleasant and I will forgive him. We are all humans, we bring make mistakes.
If you ask me what is a really friend, I would say to know whether a person is good or not is the prerequisite. I think a person who will be a real friend should satisfy the following conditions. First, I don't like a person who likes to run down others, so this kind of person will never be my friend. Second, I think my friend should be an excellent person, and she/he is always ready to help others. Most importantly, a real friend should be sincere to me, and she/he is willing to share my happiness as well as my sadness.
It is complex to describe what a friend is for me, but there is a poem which is close to the meaning that I have about friendship.
ReplyDeleteAs Kahlil Gibran said in his poem On Friendship:
"Your friend is your needs answered.
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And he is your board and your fireside.
For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.
... all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.
When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain."
Loyalty, faith, trust, respect, admiration, dedication and support are some of the qualities that I consider important in a friend. Unfortunately, none is perfect and can offer us all of these attributes in a relationship; however, sometimes you will find someone who has some of those characteristics that are related to friendship. When that happens, you will feel that you have found a vital reason to share all your good and not so good experiences. Nobody is perfect as I said, as human beings we make mistakes constantly, but we also need to know how/when to fix them or let them go. You will feel that you have a real friend when you see in his/her eyes full understanding.
I also think that full understanding is vital point to make a friendship.
DeleteI love the poem you quote. It is excellent.
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DeleteI agree with you, and I like the poem you quote
DeleteNice poem that you quote.
DeleteI am totally agree with you, and I love the poem in your quote.
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DeleteBenevolence, Righteousness, Politeness, Intelligence and Trust. This 5 points become the classic Chinese moral ethics. It also become qualities are most important for me. I think friends not only can eat or chatting with you, they must can help you. Only through working together and helping each other can we weather the current difficulties. However, betrayal is the most serious breach of friendship I can imagine. I think I can't forgive a friend who hurt me
ReplyDeleteA friends not only can eat or chatting with you, they must can help you.
DeleteI agree with this sentence.
Betrayal is the most unforgivable things what a friend can do to you. I guess, no one can accept that.
DeleteA friend is person that contradicts against my direction in some cases because people need to understand fully about other people to contradict them. Some people might say that the important qualities of friendship are assistance, respect, trust and so on. Of course, these qualities are significant things to make good relationship with people; however, it just make people become one of acquaintances and does not make a friendship. As I said, a friend sometimes contradicts my direction and decision. Therefore, if my friends hurt me, I can think that they do that to make my direction better. After all, a friend is person who lead me to a good direction and it is retained by deep understanding each other.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your point that hurt makes us grow better, and it lead us to a good direction.
DeleteI agree with you. I think a friend has to help you to make your direction better.
DeleteI agree with you, Keisuke. We are human and we make mistakes, it is necessary to have someone on your side to tell you what you are doing well or wrong. That will help you to become a better person.
DeleteI like your sentence to contrast that acquaintances and friendship.
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ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, friends is the people who can share the worry and happiness with each other, help each other when one of them is in trouble, understand and take care of each other. In a word, the real friends can make the positive effect to each other.
ReplyDeleteThe most important quality of a friend for me is to be sincere, because we all want our friends to express the real idea in their hearts to us, and I cannot stand that my friends tell a lot of lies to me. Besides, the sincere is also reflected in the situation when you do something wrong, the friends will point out the fault you make and still be there with you, to support you.
Also, it is obvious that lies and betray are the most serious beach of friendship I can imagine. Because if A friend who spends a lot of happy time with me, then he lies a lot to me or betray me, I will feel vary sad. That is, we play together, and maybe share some secrets with each other because of the trust. And then I have seen her is a good person and I have the deep emotion with her.
I like your way to describe a friend for you. I agree with your idea of sincerity; it is an important aspect to think about. Sincerity means to say what you feel and believe without being hypocritical.
DeleteI agree with you, friends can't tell a lot lies between each other.
DeleteAnd I can forgive a friend who hurt me if he apologize to me and he is still good. I think everyone has an opportunity to be forgiven because making mistakes cannot be avoided.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, friend should be a person who gives you a lot help and feels happy to stay with you. I think trust is important for me to make friend. If I can't trust a person, I won't be friend with him. I think the best friendship is that we can play together and be friend for ever. If my friend hurt me, I won't forget him. But I may not be friend with him anymore.
ReplyDeleteI believe friend is a guy who won't betray you; a guy who trust you; a guy who will bring you happiness when you see her/him; a guy who his heart always connect with you whatever where you are. Also, a perfect friendship is base on a mutually respectful, equal and trustworthy relationship. Usually, I don't want to think about what my friends will do worst things to me, but betrayal is the worst what I can imagine. I can forgive everything to my friends. I can forgive everything what my do to me, but betrayal.
ReplyDeleteBetrayal is the biggest hurt.
DeleteI think friend is a person who is giving you a sense of security. The person you can share every secrets, laughing together and crying together. Also, helping you excluding the cost and never going to hurt you. Moreover, honest is most important for each other. I couldn't imagine my friend try to hurt me and still lie to me.
ReplyDeleteI believe that your friend will never hurt you.
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DeleteGive a definition of a friend is not an easy thing for me. For me, a friend must be a person with whom you get along well regardless of your differences. A friend is a person who listens to you, supporting you, which gives you good advice, which is with you in good as in bad times. The most important qualities in a friend for me are: loyalty, self-confidence, sense of humour, respect for the other. As no one is perfect, a friend may also have defects that we bear, a person can pretend to be friends with you and then betray you. I think that nothing is unforgivable in life. If a friend hurts me, I say to him first which was not pleasant and I will forgive him. We are all humans, we bring make mistakes.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask me what is a really friend, I would say to know whether a person is good or not is the prerequisite. I think a person who will be a real friend should satisfy the following conditions.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I don't like a person who likes to run down others, so this kind of person will never be my friend. Second, I think my friend should be an excellent person, and she/he is always ready to help others. Most importantly, a real friend should be sincere to me, and she/he is willing to share my happiness as well as my sadness.